Pastor’s sermon in church last week was on vulnerability and how important it is as a Christian to be vulnerable so that we recognize our weaknesses and rely on God for the power we need. Jesus modeled vulnerability throughout his life and taught us that those who are first will be last, and those that are last will be first.
This really hit home with me because a little over a week ago my back went out with a bulging disk and all of a sudden I was extremely vulnerable. I couldn’t even put on my own shoes. I clearly had to recognize my shortcomings and ask for help to get things done. I noticed that my wife and others actually appreciated the opportunity to step up and help, and low and behold through proper exercise I feel my back is now stronger than ever.
In today’s world many think that vulnerability equates to weakness. I believe that to be just the opposite. I think vulnerability is a very important characteristic of an effective servant leader. I would define a leader that displays vulnerability as one who is courageous, flexible, can learn, wants to constantly get better, and is able to apologize.
Effective servant leaders recognize that their perception of how people feel about their leadership and how they are modeling the company’s values might not be reality. Therefore they consistently put themselves into a vulnerable position and ask their team for feedback (climate survey) on the reality of how the team sees them leading and modeling the values.
Once they get the results, these leaders will publicly thank their team for the feedback, acknowledge where they are falling short, and then put together an improvement plan based on the feedback they received. This process of climate surveys is a powerful model for the rest of the leaders in the organization as well, and will drive constant improvement of the culture.
Ultimately, I believe this human element inspires and creates connection. When leaders are willing to show up authentically, to let those they lead see all their strengths AND weaknesses, their team sees them as more human, and someone they can more readily identify with. They also see someone they more likely can trust to care about them and help fulfill their needs, just as they are conversely asked to commit to helping the leader fulfill the organization’s needs.
The strategy of vulnerability is not easily employed. I believe fear of vulnerability is the single reason more people are not effective servant leaders. But invariably, a leader’s willingness to show themselves as human, to show themselves authentically and transparently, will pay dividends in the form of increased followership for years to come. Do YOU have the courage to be vulnerable?
Mark Deterding
Mark – I really like the concept of “courage to be vulnerable”. On the surface, these could be seen as contrasting. But your point that to be vulnerable really takes one who is strong is right on. This kind of strength is found in our emotion and passion and in our values. When we live to those, we can be very vulnerable, and in return find many gifts and opportunities to learn. Thanks for the thoughtful blog.
Jean,
Thanks so much for your very valuable comments and insights! You are right on, in that there is nothing better than being passionate and emotional about staying true to our values, and in the process learning along the way. That is true strength!
Mark
Mark- I recently attended a Respect in the Workplace training course, most of what was discussed in the class I could tie together with what I have read throughout your blog posts, which was wonderful being able to make those connections and apply it to how I interact with my coworkers. As someone who is new in the world of business I have really taken a lot from your blog on how to be a better employee and how I can better relate to my superiors and teams. The idea of vulnerability and allowing yourself to be vulnerable really tied into an idea from my class about the power you have to invite someone into your comfort zone will help set them up to succeed. If you are vulnerable enough to let others in, I believe you both will thrive in business and in everyday life. I have really enjoyed reading your blog!
Jenna,
Thanks so much for your comments. I commend you for your focus on developing your skills in this area through training courses and reading servant leadership blogs. I couldn’t agree with you more about the importance of being open to vulnerability and allowing others into your comfort zone. That will build very important relationships that will drive positive results on many fronts. This will be a strength and attribute that will serve you very well throughout your career. Great work!
Mark